Families’ Dynamics

So often in life, the outcome of our experiences is determined (or at least greatly influenced) by the people we share them with.  I, without a doubt, had one of the best experiences ever because of the other families that stayed at the guesthouse with me.  While there are many things to learn from those that are different from ourselves, I think the core of who we are (the 3 families) was similar.  This greatly aided in us getting along and enjoying each others' company.

What was the secret ingredient?   I'm not sure but I think there were a couple.  This is just my perspective.  The others may actually think of me in a different way (but they covered well).

• Hakuna Matata.  None of us got wound up about lack of information about what was coming up or things not going according to itinerary.
• Giving a hand.  OK, mostly I benefited from this one.  There was always someone to watch my kid when I wanted to shower, had to meet with Asnake, etc.  I think my son sat on everyone's lap at the dinner table at some point.  (I don't want to hear it from any of the Attachment Police on this point.)
• Similar philosophies on parenting.
• A lot of humor.

So, for those of you yet to go, some unsolicited advice for you.  As with all, take it or leave it.

1. Don't be pretentious.  Your book learnin' doesn't make you any better (or better of a parent) than anyone else.
2. Don't get so absorbed in the Attachment Rules that you don't ask for help or have fun/enjoy the other kids.
3. Don't ever assume you know more, have more experience than someone you just met.  Not everyone verbalizes their resumes upon introduction.
4. Don't make assumptions in general.
5. Let it go.  If things don't work the way you planned, C'est la Vie.  You will get to the Embassy when you need to be there and you will go home with your child(ren).  The rest, in the long run, doesn't matter.  You can send money with other parents if you missed out on a souvenir.  You can save your money and make a return trip in a couple years if you missed out on travel/site-seeing.  If you have suggestions for improvements, send a note to CHSFS when you get back.  Complaining/whining only brings those around you down.
6. Don't compare.
7. Be the kind of person you'd like to hang out with.
8. Laugh.  Laugh a lot.

Personal Shout-Outs to Our Families 

Granny:  What a joy you were!  Keeping us sane and absorbing the culture.  Your family is so lucky to have you.  When they get smart and decide to rent you out, let me know because we would like to sign-up!!

To S:  So, I repeatedly warn others to take extra pants because of the leaky diapers.  However, you are also a culprit.  You made us laugh till I almost peed myself.  You're an excellent role model of what a Dad should be and it was easy to see that was true by your daughter's adoring eyes.

To R:  You are my kindred spirit.  You rock as a Mama.  Yes, I know you are lucky to have your son, but he really fell under a lucky star to be blessed with you, too!  You made my trip phenomenal, especially to visit families.